SCREW MEDITATION! A Blueprint for Success
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Recently I stopped meditating and wrote a LinkedIn post about it. I clearly hit a nerve because it blew up, with nearly 130,000 views and over 300 comments (and rising) from all over the world, most echoing my feelings:
Meditation is sold as a cure-all which would eliminate my anxiety and make me feel constantly calm. I thought it was the path to peace of mind. Instead, I thought I couldn’t do it properly; it felt like something was deeply wrong with me, and made me feel even more anxious and bad about myself than before!
Before this point, I’d been regularly meditating for five years. I thought it was a magic solution to cure my whizzing brain, anxiety-driven perfectionism and chronic overworking.
But thinking about my personal experience and reflecting on the hundreds of coaching sessions I’ve had with clients over the last 15 years, I realised that meditation will never change your life if you’re a high-performing, ambitious, often anxious recovering perfectionist (like me). And there’s no magic pill, wishful thinking or exercise which will.
At the moment, you think that to be successful and happy, you need to work hard.
You’re fiercely ambitious; you want to get ahead at work – and your family, friends, and mental health are way down your priority list.
The good news?
You CAN learn to switch off that busy brain of yours, be more productive, acheive your goals and enjoy life!
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We all have different ways of trying to quiet our ever-busy minds, on top of the ‘failed’ attempts at meditation. Maybe you've taken one or more of these routes (I know my clients, and I have):
Toxic quick fixes:
Drugs, alcohol, overeating, shopping, binge-watching, too much social media – name your poison. Your prefrontal cortex (the rational thinking part of your brain) cannot make decent decisions, so you also stop doing the things that are good for you – you don’t eat well, exercise, or see friends.
The Magic Pill solution:
The ultimate in perfecting yourself so that you can achieve. You go vegan, cut out carbs, do hot yoga, juicing, obsessive exercise, cut out sugar – all the things people do when looking for outside fixes for an unknowingly internal issue. The result? Anxiety, stress, overwhelm (and much less money)
“I just need a day off…”:
You realise you’re burning out and take a sick day, sick leave, or a week’s holiday. You enter survival mode, and once you’ve caught up with personal admin, you’ll be OK, won’t you? But you don’t do your admin because you’re too mentally exhausted, and you end up sitting on the sofa with Netflix and feeling bad about yourself.
Waiting for a miracle:
You’re always anxious and stressed but decide to wait. It will all be OK once that horrible boss leaves/that project is over/after Christmas/after your next bonus. You’ve put all the power in the hands of other people and their actions and blame others and your situation for what is going on in your life.
Changing jobs:
If all else fails, you switch jobs and find something flexible you can do from home. At last, you’ll have time and space to think. But your old beliefs still drive you – you feel less than, not good enough. You still have that old drive to succeed, still think you always have to be on, always accessible, responding super-fast to everything, constantly pricked by those spikes of cortisol – the stress hormone. You’re still unhappy, just in a different place.
None of these routes provides sustainable, lasting change.
But you can change the way you work and live your life.
You can take control and have a life full of joy and success in a healthy way without having to sit cross-legged on the floor to do it.
Would you like to feel calmer, happier and more productive, always be present with friends and family and ready to enjoy work and life again?
The first step? SCREW MEDITATION! Your Success Blueprint.
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This is the perfect book for you if you say ‘yes’ to at least one of these:
You put work before everything else – including your partner and kids. Everything you want and need goes right to the bottom of the list
You think you need to be constantly available; you keep your phone by your bed and answer emails in front of the TV
You say yes to everything work asks, never slow down or stop and are always striving
Your self-worth comes from your success, and you think failure is not an option
You think you are not enough, so you find it hard to set boundaries
Your self-criticism is paralysing or getting worse
You go between feeling exhausted and wanting to have a massive break to wanting to do ALL the things perfectly RIGHT NOW
SCREW MEDITATION! is packed with actionable, practical tools and tips, tried and tested by me and my clients over the past 15 years. You’ll embark on a transformative journey and learn:
How to uncover and shift your beliefs and create new ones that will enable you to change how you work and live
The importance of banishing “busy work,” why you do it and how to stop immediately
How to cut the time you spend putting other people first
How to be even more productive and in a healthy and sustainable way
How you can live a joyful life and still have success on your own terms
You’ll unlock the secrets to:
Why beating yourself up is never going to be a blueprint for success
The science behind why meditation doesn’t work for you
Effective tools which work in the moment to reduce stress and anxiety
The science behind why you keep going for the toxic quick fixes
The importance of sleep and why sleep deprivation is known as the “new smoking.”
Some true joy-giving activities and active or extreme mindfulness pursuits more suited to busy minds than meditation
Ready to begin? Take that single step towards goal acheivement and success today
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I’ve been where you are.
For many years, I was an outwardly successful BBC TV Producer. It looked like I had it all – a glamorous responsible job and a fantastic life.
Inside, I was a mess.
Eighteen years ago, I didn’t feel good enough. I worked and worked to the point of endangering my health and even the health of my unborn baby. Up late, back at work early, I gave work my all. I thought success was happiness; success was working hard, and work was the be-all and end-all.
I worked crazy hours, excessively partied, drank too much, cancelled holidays with friends and let people down – the classic work hard, play hard. I was driven by my ambitions and by what I now know is anxiety.
I thought I could change my life by changing my (unfulfilling) job, so I trained as a coach. I thought my days of crazy hours and driven overwork were behind me.
Fast-forward a few months, and work was going so well. But - I had too many clients, worked all hours and could not cope – especially as I had a young child. It wasn’t until a friend found me on the floor, literally on my hand and knees, and took me to the doctor that I realised I had a problem.
I’d moved situation, but my beliefs were the same. My beliefs drove my behaviour, so until I could interrogate and change them, anxiety, perfectionism, and overworking would run my life.
Now, 18 years later, having consistently worked through the causes of my behaviour and found sustainable solutions to my unhealthy relationship with work, I am ironically more successful in my field than ever before (I earn more but work less hours), I am purposefully living a life I love, full of people and activities (even during the working week!) which bring me pure joy. And you can too.
SCREW MEDITATION! - Your Sucess Blueprint
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WHAT MY CLIENTS SAY
... a wonderful and transformative experience for me, my leadership and my organisation. Sue doesn’t shy away from taking you out of your comfort zone by asking powerful questions.
I’m excited for the rest of the journey in growing as a leader,as well as our future business collaborations with her!
Screw Meditation! is a brilliantly fun, and actionable approach to managing work and finding more joy in it.
Sue’s years of experience in finding things that actually work for her clients shows.
Screw Meditation! workshop was unique and super helpful and I came away better informed in new ways to develop self-care and resilience.
Sue ran the group with warmth, compassion and a deep understanding of what makes modern business leaders tick, and how to avoid burnout.
Great fun as well, as ever.
Background – I have known Sue for a few years now and she is my go to person where C-Suite executives need to consider next steps and if a coach should be part of their continuing journey. Sue is fantastic at having this initial conversation to understand their needs and always helps their thinking about the help that is available and what may suit their needs at a specific time.
Sue is an outstanding coach. She listens very carefully and understands immediately what you need to do, then gets straight to the point with practical tools and solutions.
I had recently been appointed member of the board with a new team of direct reports and difficult business challenges. Sue’s coaching led to significant improvements in my leadership.
She was adaptive, easy to work with and at the same time stretched and challenged me to my limits. The coaching felt very ‘safe’ and was extremely rich in terms of approaches methodologies and concepts.
It is a real gift to work with Sue if you are committed to developing and improving your leadership skills and behaviours.
Sue’s had a huge impact on both my professional and personal life. Sue’s a wonderful coach and mentor – great at listening and incredibly empathetic.
She’s certainly taken me out of my comfort zone, but in a good way, leading to real improvements in my approach to leadership and my own coaching style
Sue is one of the best in the game so no surprises that her Screw Meditation! workshop delivered.
I’ve been struggling with a busy brain for as long as I can remember so to learn that I am ‘normal’and not alone but also to understand what’s happening in my brain is really helpful…
And then... workable strategies! Hallelujah!
Sue has a dramatic impact on my life, both professionally and personally! She helped me to clearly articulate long-term goals and achievable ways of meeting them.
She taught me exercises to deal with anxiety and self-doubt, and tools which enabled me to better coach my team and grow them as leaders. She helped me feel more in control of my life and celebrate my successes.
Are you a leader, and you are constantly busy? Do you struggle to switch off? Then this book is for you. Sue provides research- based, actionable techniques that will help you improve your leadership and life, and even more, your partner, family, and your
team will benefit, too.
In addition to acquiring new techniques, I particularly enjoyed learning aspects of cognitive science and physiology, as this improves understanding.
Screw Meditation! is an absolute game changer! As someone who struggled to meditate, Sue’s approach was a breath of fresh air, truly unique and impactful. The hacks she provided were invaluable and easily applicable to everyday life.
I wholeheartedly recommend the workshop (and this book) to anyone seeking a practical and effective approach to rediscovering calm, clarity and balance in everyday life.
Having been very apprehensive about seeing a leadership coach I can honestly say I have been converted. Sue has been a breath of fresh air and her honest and challenging approach has given me the confidence to believe in myself.
She has given me a number of really great techniques in leader- ship which I use on a daily basis. I can’t recommend Sue enough– she has a fabulous way of making you self-aware and enabling you to grow as an individual as well as a leader.
Sue has been a trusted advisor to me for the past five years, helping me navigate a career change as well as many life changes. Her work is underpinned by neurological science that she translates into practical exercises in a way that you feel complete control and ownership over.
I’m very lucky to have Sue in my life and highly encourage you to get in touch with her if you are facing any big life questions and want a professional, scientific and wholehearted companion to help you through them.
I was six minutes late to our first session. Her first questions to me were ‘What stopped you getting here on time today?’ and ‘What does that cost you in your life?’
I knew straight away that this was someone who would give me candid feedback and ask hard and, at times, uncomfortable questions when needed while remaining incredibly kind and supportive.
The coaching identified my important goals, old beliefs that were holding me back, and a way forward. I can’t recommend her highly enough.
I wanted to make a change in the way I operated and engaged with the wider leadership team - to make a difference, and prepare for challenging times ahead.
Sue taught me mindfulness techniques that have been so helpful to deal with any anxiety I have ahead of confronting situations. She gave me the confidence to stand up for myself and to take the lead.
Sue is very encouraging and more importantly non-judgmental. She is very wise, has lots of tools and techniques that can be applied, and also has the great skill of being able to ask the right questions - that make you probe for the answer yourself, some-how allowing those lightbulb moments come to the surface.
Sue is an incredibly astute, insightful and pragmatic coach. I could easily connect with her approach of viewing me as a whole, realising that who I am in my personal life directly affects who I am in the business context.
She is warm and welcoming, which allowed me to trust her to help me work through blockers that were inhibiting aspects of my development. Within three months, I gained new skills to deal with challenging situations on my own terms.
Her work is as deep and meaningful as you allow it to be. I highly recommend Sue for individuals and companies alike.
Sue is a phenomenal coach. Insightful and thoughtful, she carefully takes the time to understand what makes you who you are. Her approach is focused on honesty, respect and accountability. She challenges you to look further than your established beliefs and pushes you to commit and follow through with any plans or goals you make.
Sue is friendly and approachable; I found working with her to be thoroughly enjoyable.
She effortlessly creates an environment of trust and I’ve come away from my time working with her with clarity, purpose and a plan with tangible steps for my future.
Sue has been an incredible consultant for me and for Squiz. She has helped me cut to the core of issues, understand why they were happening and resolve them in a positive way.
Sue is simply at the forefront of her field. She used her insight, skills, understanding and empathy to help me understand how to grow into the leader I want to be.
SCREW MEDITATION! - Your Sucess Blueprint
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